So it sounds like a funny thing to say, but today I realized that Christian guys actually do exist.
Now, before you shoot me down with “hey! I’m a Christian guy and obviously we exist!” or “Duh, Keri”… hear me out.
Give me a chance to prove myself to why I came to this realization just now. Be patient and just read, ok? Thanks. :]
I’m in college. I don’t have a boyfriend. I’ve never been in a serious relationship.
With those three sentences, I’ve reduced the size of the college girl population by a very large percentage.
You take 10 college girls and chances are, one or two of them have never been in a relationship, therefore [more often than not that means they’ve] never had a boyfriend.
I’m not complaining by any means. I realize that God’s got my whole story planned out (and with that sentence, somebody has probably laughed in my face or behind my back).
And yes, I admit, sometimes I wish that God would speed up my “love story” a little.
(BEFORE YOU READ ANY FURTHER, READ THIS Disclaimer: Girls, I am not saying that a boy is the answer to any of your problems. No. Do not ever think this. If you think that you’ll automatically find worth in a guy, you’re wrong. You cannot.
Jesus loves you more than words. He died for you because He loves you that much. Nothing will EVER compare to that love. Nothing. Read this to know more. With this said, I know this. I know that God’s love is the greatest love in the world and nothing can ever compare to this. Now you may continue reading…)
But hey! You’re probably thinking. I love Jesus so much! I just want to fast forward and see if he’s got a guy for me, too, yanno? Who hasn’t wanted to fast forward their life just to see what’s going to happen in the future? Me and you are on the same page, girl, believe me. What I’ve learned is that it’s human and it all goes back to faith.
It’s a beautiful quote filled with truth. Seek God and the perfect guy will come [if it’s God’s will for your life]. If only it were that simple, but what the quote doesn’t mention is “P.S. You may have to be patient, because God’s going to teach you some lessons along the way.” God is awesome and He is also loving. He brings us exactly what we can handle at the right time. And if we can’t handle it, He helps us handle it.
But then my doubt creeps in. “I can handle it now!” I’ve prayed before. “I can handle this. I see girls all over the place ‘handle’ a relationship and are perfectly happy; why am I different than that? Why are you saying no?” (I guess you can tell by now that I’m not the most patient person in the world, but I’m trying).
Well, he answered that prayer with a quote from Martin Luther King, Jr. God spoke loud and crystal clear through Martin’s words.
Faith; doesn’t it all come back to that? I’ve written about it before; how I’m a perfectionist and a little bit of an OCD freak. How I have trouble letting go and letting God. I guess this post is summing that all up and that’s not even why I sat down to write, but God’s making it clear to me now right now, too. My life’s theme is Faith.
Now I admit, there are days where I lose perspective on life and God’s plan and break down a little…not break down physically, but break down emotionally and spiritually. I don’t wonder “Why me?”, I just wonder “What’s the plan?” I’ve doubted myself: is it something I do? Am I too outgoing? Am I too nice? Do I laugh too much? Am I too short? Too fat? Too weird?
There must be something wrong with me, I’ve thought time and time again.
“People are just intimidated by you,” someone told me once. “You’re too Godly and too into the whole Christian thing; you’re scaring them off.”
I didn’t know what to say to this person, because from an “outsider’s” opinion, it’s true– I probably have intimidated some guys in the past because I’m into the whole “church scene” and “God loving people” (as college students have said to me). Shouldn’t it be that way, though? I’m a Christian; I want my future guy to be a Christian, too. If he’s Mr. Right, then shouldn’t my “intimidating Christian personality” be not so intimidating? Pinterest seems to agree with that thinking, because a day or two shortly after having that conversation with that person, I found a quote that resonated with me. It stuck. It was a little reminder that Prince Charming is out there somewhere.
I’m getting to the Christian guys realization, I promise!
Well, a girl can dream, right? 😉
The Right Guy is going to come eventually, if it’s God’s will for me and you. He’s going to sweep you off your feet and make you realize why it didn’t work for any other guy. If he’s Mr. Right, then,
Well, here comes the point to my entire blog post.
Tonight, I went to Starbucks with my brother. While waiting for my beverage, I noticed three college-aged guys sitting around a small coffee table, sipping lattes while talking amongst each other. I noticed three books in front of them; three worn books with yellow highlighted sections, pieces of paper, and pens. I was stunned. I couldn’t believe it.
Three college-aged guys were reading The Bible and discussing it. Meditating on it. Digging through it.
They exist, girls!! They. EXIST. There are guys out there who are just in love with Jesus as you are. They are praying for their Mrs. Right just as much as you are praying for them.
It’s encouraging to know this, even though I knew deep down all along. To see it actually in person, to witness a few guys publicly having a Bible study right in the middle of Starbucks, gave me joy. It made me want to run over and shake their hands and say “I’m just so thankful you exist!” and then walk out excitedly. (I didn’t do this– that would be weird).
God’s teaching me one day at a time. He’s teaching me to love Him more than I’ve loved him before, to know Him better, to really take time to know Him and learn more about Him. He’s shown me that Christian guys who are in love with Him do still exist. He keeps reminding me to:
Girls, God’s got this. I know I’ve said it time and time again, but I feel like it needs to be said again. Barlow Girl wrote a song called ‘Average Girl.’ In part of it’s chorus, they sing: Like Sleeping Beauty, my Prince will come for me, will come for me. And they’re spot on. He will come for you one day, if God has it planned for you. God’s plans [and timing] are perfect and sometimes, most times, I forget this. Faith in God includes faith in His timing.
They exist. Christian guys exist. I witnessed that today. But first, fall madly in love with Jesus. He’s got your love story all figured out. He knows when Prince Charming’s going to show up on his white horse (or rather, some sort of modern day transportation). God knows who, when, where, how, and why.
So yes, I admit, I have trouble grasping this whole Faith thing and waiting patiently for Mr. Right to show up into my life.
But, along with Tim Tebow, I also know this: