I’ve been thinking about deep things a lot lately. Life. Love. Faith. Stuff like that.
I was talking to my friend about deep things the other day. We like to share our thoughts and think about it together, discussing and digging deeper. My friend and I realized something the other day that really stuck with me and inspired this blog post. It has to do with girls and their love addiction.
A Christian band made up of three sisters, Barlow Girl, has proclaimed that they are against dating and are waiting until their Right Ones come along and sweep them off their feet. They encourage girls to do the same thing, not date and wait for Prince Charming to waltz through their door. While their message to say that God is writing your love story is a good one, it’s being taken a little too far.
Their message implies that your future spouse is doing all the work. They’re changing; they’re working; they’re doing what God wants them to do…while we sit there and wait for them to finish changing so they can walk right up to us… But what are we doing?
We’re not perfect. We’re far from it. So why aren’t we changing, too?
Yes, God is writing each of our love stories, but it’s more then that. If God hasn’t put a relationship in your life, there is a reason. God knows what we can handle. There’s a reason for everything he does. If God hasn’t put a relationship in your life, your main focus should be to focus on God and figure out what God’s great planner is instead. Sometimes, this means to figure out your sin struggle.
For example, my friend is sick. She has an illness that isn’t just a short term sort of thing. It’ll stay with her for the rest of her life. If God hadn’t put that sickness in her life, she could’ve been out partying and growing away from her faith. God knows us deeper then we think. Instead of partying, my friend is sick and can’t…won’t. God knows us better then we know ourselves and puts things in our lives to make us stop and turn towards Him for our direction and path.
I know that sounds cliche, but it’s true. I struggle with this, too. “Why is this happening to me?” I sometimes question. I admit that I am sometimes blind to God’s words for me. But, instead of taking this time of single-ness to moan and groan about your nonexistent love life and/or worry about what a guy thinks of you: quit complaining, pray, and open your eyes to something God may be trying to tell you. This is what I’ve learned. Example: Maybe you’re insecure and petty and boy crazy and you think that if you had a boy friend, your insecurity would go away because somebody would be there. No. Take your insecurities and give them to God and trust HIM to help you be secure again.
It’s harder then it sounds, because it’s hard giving up something that becomes “normal” or “comfortable.” When you are pushed out of your comfort zone because of something God is doing in your life, most of the time, good things will happen because you’re obeying Him. Whether or not you see it that way in the beginning, well…that depends on His plan.
We don’t give boys enough credit. I will be the first one to admit this. But, they are awesome. Truly, they are. We girls have a tendency to say things like, “That boy is dumb because he doesn’t like me.” Well, maybe there’s a reason things aren’t working out. Maybe there’s a sin struggle you are blind to. Everyone sins, but some never see their own struggles. Open your eyes to what your fault is and work on it, with God, to fix it.
This is a harsh reality, but I’ve thought and prayed over writing about this because I feel like girls need to wake up and do something about their actions. I’m exhausted from hearing about girls gush over guys and then pout when a guy doesn’t like them back or isn’t acting as quickly as the girl wants them to. God’s using your single life to challenge you. To see that when life isn’t going exactly how you pictured it, if you will still honor God and trust in His plan. I, for one, have been opened to so many things already… and I just started really doing this a few days ago!
Of course, this is just something to think about…to ponder, to contemplate, etc. etc. I’ve been thinking about it lately, wondering what God has in His story for me. I don’t want my future husband having to do all the work, because I know that I need to change, too. Next time, when you are listening to Taylor Swift, consuming chocolate, and watching romantic movies, remember that God’s ways are better then our’s and He knows us better then we know our selves. Maybe there’s nothing wrong with this picture that you find yourself in…maybe you need to look in the mirror and see that God’s using your life to mold you.